We all know words matter. You can probably remember a time when someone said something kind that lifted your whole day. And sadly, we also remember harsh words that hurt deep down and stayed with us for years. In our world today, with texts, comments, and posts flying everywhere, it is easy to speak without thinking. But the book of Proverbs warns us about the real power behind our words.
Proverbs 18:21 says it straight: “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.” (ESV)
That means what we say can bring life or cause damage. Our words are not just sounds. They carry weight. They can encourage someone or tear them down. And we end up living with the results of how we use them.
Look at Proverbs 15:4: “A gentle tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness in it breaks the spirit.” (ESV)
A gentle word is like a tree that gives shade and fruit. It refreshes people and helps them grow. But twisted or cruel words crush someone’s spirit. They leave people feeling broken inside.
Proverbs 12:18 adds to this: “There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” (ESV)
Rash words hit like a sword. They cut fast and deep. We have all felt that sting, maybe from a quick argument or an angry reply online. But wise words bring healing. They mend hurts and build others up.
And here is a practical one in Proverbs 10:19: “When words are many, transgression is not lacking, but whoever restrains his lips is prudent.” (ESV)
The more we talk, the easier it is to sin with our words. Sometimes the smartest thing is to stay quiet or say less.
Why does Proverbs hit this topic so hard? Because God knows our hearts show through what we say. Words reveal who we are inside. In a time when everyone has a platform to speak, these truths feel more needed than ever.
So how do we use our words better? Start by pausing before you speak or hit send. Ask yourself: Will this build up or tear down? Is it gentle and true? Pray for help to control your tongue. Choose encouragement over criticism. Speak life into your family, friends, and even strangers.
I have seen it in real life. A kind word at the right time can change someone’s outlook. But careless ones can start fights or leave lasting pain.
Your words have power today. Choose to bring life and healing. It starts with one conversation at a time.
What about you? Think about your words this week. How can you use them to bless someone?