“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” (Psalm 34:18)
Heartbreak hurts, especially when it comes from someone as close as family—or, in my case, my church family, which feels just as personal. Those bonds mean everything, so when they break, it’s like the ground shifts beneath you. But as Christians, we have a lifeline: God’s Word, which promises hope, healing, and restoration even in our darkest moments. This is my reflection on navigating that pain, written for myself but shared in case it speaks to you.
When a family member—or a church family—betrays you, misunderstands you, or drifts away, the pain cuts deep. It’s not just a moment; it’s a loss that lingers. I’ve learned it’s okay to feel that ache and let yourself grieve. The Bible gets it—Psalm 34:18 says God is right there with the brokenhearted, ready to lift up those who feel crushed. That’s a reminder I hold onto: God doesn’t leave us alone in our hurt. He’s closer than ever when we’re falling apart.
Forgiveness is tough, especially when the wound is fresh. But as Christians, we’re called to it. Ephesians 4:32 hits hard: “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” I’ll be honest—forgiving someone who broke my trust feels impossible sometimes. But I’ve found that praying for strength helps. Forgiveness isn’t saying what happened was okay; it’s choosing to let go of bitterness so it doesn’t eat you alive. If there’s a chance to rebuild that relationship, take it slow and ask God to guide you. He’ll show you the way.
One of my mentors told me often that “you can not be mad with someone you are praying for”. I doubt he was the author of that wisdom but it is great wisdom regardless. Prayer has a byproduct of love for other regardless of words that you say during the prayer. In Romans we know that the Holy Spirit helps us pray the prayer we need when we are honest with Him, 8:27: “And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for God’s people in accordance with the will of God.”
God’s promises are like an anchor when life feels shaky. Jeremiah 29:11 is one I lean on: “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Even when I can’t see where God’s leading, I trust He’s got a plan. That verse reminds me that my pain isn’t the end of the story—God’s working it out for my good, even if it’s hard to believe in the moment.
You don’t have to go through heartbreak alone. Galatians 6:2 says, “Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” My church family—despite the hurt some caused—has also been my biggest support. Talking to a trusted friend or pastor, or just asking for prayer, can make a huge difference. It’s humbling to open up, but it’s worth it. There’s strength in letting others hold you up when you’re struggling.
Heartbreak isn’t just something to survive—it can shape you in ways you don’t expect. Romans 8:28 promises, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” I’ve seen it in my own life: the hurt I’ve faced has made my faith deeper and my heart stronger. It’s not easy, but God uses tough times to grow us, turning our pain into something meaningful.
Heartbreak from family—or those who feel like family—can leave you feeling lost. But God’s Word lights the way forward. He’s with you in the hurt, offering comfort and hope. Forgive, even when it’s hard. Lean on your community for support. And trust that God’s using this pain to shape you for His purpose. I’m still working through my own heartbreak, but I know God’s promises are true. He brings peace and healing, and I’m holding onto that.
“Let all that you do be done in love.” (1 Corinthians 16:14)
This is my story, but maybe it’s yours too. Keep trusting God—He’s got you.